It’s deplorable that sexually adventurous young women are constantly told they are “degrading themselves” by seeking out various experiences, that every bit of enjoyment eats away at some secret store of purity. This whole tradition–the idea that women need be preserved in glass so as not to “ruin” themselves, lest they diminish their sexual value by “giving it away”–restricts the lived autonomy of women in ways I can’t even begin to articulate. None of the slut-shaming makes sense unless you assume women live to give themselves to men in their purest possible form.
Kerry Howley (via thenewwomensmovement)
An older lady overheard my friends and I talking about my poly life. When we could feel eyes on us, we turned around and stared at her. She told me “well that sounds fun, honey, but you’re getting to the age where settling down will give you lifelong security. If you stay on this path, sweetie, you’ll regret it when you get to my age.”
I’m 26 and I regret all the years I wasted listening to that slut-shaming.